The Ego

by Avid Reader on November 7, 2006

in Avid Musings

Dear Author wrote a topic a few days ago titled: should authors shut up and write? Ms. Joyce responds and hang on to your seats, I’ve high­lighted some of the good parts and read­ers, some of it is rather insult­ing but don’t be. It’s the ego talking.

I’ve never read Lydia Joyce. Quite frankly, her books sound like the kind of nov­els that I’d enjoy read­ing since I do pre­fer “dark” books. Alas, but I digress.  I admit to not read­ing the com­ments she made in it’s entirety and thus I started skim­ming and then these com­ments jumped out at me like this one: 

Yes, there are some peo­ple who are “too stu­pid” to under­stand my books. But they don’t bring up a par­tic­u­lar plot point they don’t like. They com­plain that none of it makes sense and that there are so many big, con­fus­ing words that the books are IMPOSSIBLE to under­stand. These peo­ple just aren’t my read­ers. I’m des­tined to piss them off just by hav­ing “big words” in a book.

I am half-way tempted to read one of her books just see all the “big words” she claims to use that seems to con­fuse read­ers. Next time I’m in the used book­store, I’ll get a copy as there’s plenty of her books to be found there, left by stu­pid people.

Here’s another eye-rolling moment:

As far as “stu­pid” read­ers go–those peo­ple I ignore pub­licly. Why would I waste my breath talk­ing about peo­ple who aren’t even in my audi­ence? Why would I want to, when what I really want is to snatch my book out of their hands and for­bid them from ever com­ing within 100 yards of another one?

Oh and I just love this one:

I don’t expect my read­ers to be bril­liant. They are, how­ever, not stu­pid. My atti­tude isn’t about arro­gance. It’s about respect. I can either treat peo­ple like idiots and write to them like babies, or I can treat them like rea­son­ably intel­li­gent peo­ple and risk occa­sion­ally con­fus­ing an intel­li­gent per­son as a result–particularly an intel­li­gent per­son who’s used to being treated like a baby most of the time, anyway.

Oh and I also had no idea that Ms. Joyce was a mem­ber of Mensa  because she goes on to say:

Yeah, I’m smart, and I got sick to death of hid­ing it along time ago. I refuse to do it any­more because it shouldn’t be some­thing to be ashamed of or hated for, and I hope that my stand­ing up will help oth­ers who have faced dis­crim­i­na­tion, too. (I guess I’m still too much of a hyp­ocrite to post my IQ range, but I can still hope that the day will come when it won’t be any dif­fer­ent than dress or shoe size.) There is noth­ing in the world wrong with being smart any more than there’s some­thing wrong with hav­ing blue eyes or brown skin, and it is NOT “show­ing off” to refrain from talk­ing down to peo­ple any more than it is show­ing off for a tall per­son not to stoop.

 And to con­clude this topic made up of most of Ms. Joyce’s own words (well most of them anyway), I don’t have to worry about her com­ment­ing here at my blog because:

If I address some­thing pub­licly, it’s because I respect a person’s opin­ion enough talk about it.

Dear Author’s topic of “should authors just write and shut up” is so aptly named for Ms. Joyce and clearly sets the exam­ple of an author who should do just that.  My next project for myself will be to read a Lydia Joyce book. I’m sure some­one can rec­om­mend a book for me?

Edited to add: Monica’s com­ments here: Hypocrisy in Action.

For Fur­ther Reading

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CindyS November 11, 2006 at 2:23 am

Maili — I was just say­ing how I remem­ber her from the reader boards and that she did seem to have an intel­li­gence about her. She was able to debate very well and I remem­ber inter­act­ing with her on the boards.

All the same, now she seems like a com­pletely dif­fer­ent per­son. It’s like once she became pub­lished she no longer needed to debate because she was right. If it is a youth thing then I do hope she will grow out of it. If not, some­one much harsher and big­ger than us will knock her off her self-impossed pedestal.

Thing is most peo­ple don’t remem­ber her as a reader and her name is dif­fer­ent as an author so all they know are the words she is using now and clearly she is not mak­ing friends OR sales.

CindyS

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Avid Reader November 10, 2006 at 5:57 pm

I sup­pose the ques­tion is whether you’d be will­ing to do that.

No, I’m not.

I think as a con­sumer I was more put off by her words. First off, I’m not her friend, so, no, I don’t want to take the time to under­stand all her per­sonal bag­gage. Don’t have time for that. I’m not even a fan but a poten­tial buyer. I just think that as Bev men­tioned, she raised some eye­brows by stat­ing the things that she did that I as a reader and con­sumer would find off-putting. There are thou­sands of other books out there to read and other authors out there want­ing to sell me their books with­out being insult­ing.
Appre­ci­ate your defend­ing her but I’m sure this whole thing won’t hurt her book sales, so no worries.

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Bev (BB) November 10, 2006 at 1:30 pm

I don’t know, Maili. She might’ve been will­ing to “debate” in the past but the last cou­ple of posts that have shown up are decid­edly not sim­ple debat­ing. They are, um, almost inde­scribeable. Really.

Hey, I’ve seen a lot of things said online that bor­der on insult­ing but could be called either way and I usu­ally tend to give the ben­e­fit of a doubt or sim­ply ignore them if pos­si­ble. Can you hon­estly say that some of the above quoted com­ments are sim­ply accept­able “debat­ing”? Or even good sense for an author to spout to poten­tial read­ers? ‘Cause they sure raised my eyebrows.

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xina November 10, 2006 at 11:28 am

Well, in Real Life she may have some redeem­ing qual­i­ties, whereas online we only see her words. We miss man­ner­isms and char­ac­ter­is­tics that are part of her per­son. I just think if you are sell­ing a prod­uct to the pub­lic, it’s best for your sales to not insult that pub­lic. She may be bet­ter off think­ing twice before she presses “enter”. Just a thought.

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Sybil November 10, 2006 at 9:54 am

She has a decid­edly dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive and out­look, and you have to look through her eyes to under­stand what she’s try­ing to say.

Oh I can see it. I under­stand ego and think­ing you are bet­ter than the rest of the world *G*. But when you are try­ing to make your liv­ing off that same world, you pro­lly don’t want them to know you think their asses are stupid.

And can you really call it debate when there is no room for move­ment or see­ing that the other per­son idea’s might be right… or just as right as your own? Some­times there is more than one answer to a question.

But hey what­ever is clever…

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Maili November 10, 2006 at 9:34 am

Aw, Lydia J. is okay, really. I have seen her around for years, mostly from when she was a reader and active on a mail­ing list for read­ers (this was yonks ago). She fre­quently got into lively debates with var­i­ous read­ers and authors.

It seems to me that some­times when she is frus­trated or upset she tends to be sar­cas­tic, which doesn’t always come across on a text-based plat­form well, e.g. “big words”. She some­times can be like a dog with a bone, espe­cially with an issue she cares pas­sion­ately for. Some­times you might have to bash her head with a bone to get your mes­sage across. :D Either way she usu­ally gives as good as she gets, which is a plus in my books.

She has a decid­edly dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive and out­look, and you have to look through her eyes to under­stand what she’s try­ing to say. I sup­pose the ques­tion is whether you’d be will­ing to do that. She’s not bad, really. I believe dur­ing those times on the mail­ing list (I can’t remem­ber what it’s called now — it’s the one AAR set up for read­ers) I irri­tated her as much as she irri­tated me, but I do have a soft spot for her because when­ever she issued her state­ments, how­ever pro­vok­ing these might be, she was usu­ally happy to have her state­ments ques­tioned. She loves (well, she did at the time) debates and she will change her stance or back down if you man­aged to put your points across well. In my books that is a plus. Hence my will­ing­ness to defend her here.

IMO, she’s a non-conformist who pretty much marches to her own drum, which is a rar­ity, I think, in the online romance com­mu­nity where peer pres­sure tends to dom­i­nate our world. Our egos might haven’t get on well (when­ever we cor­rect each other’s state­ments or fac­toids (espe­cially about his­tory), we hate it enough to argue ’til we can either admit defeat by not respond­ing any more or agree­ing she/I was right — it’s an ego thing!), but gen­er­ally I like her (I admit there have been times when I called her every name under the sun). She can be dif­fi­cult and, you know, “Aargh! *head­desk* Aaaargh!” She can be a real geek with weird social skills, but she’s a hedge­hog. Hence my soft spot for her.

FWIW, any­way. :)

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Sybil November 9, 2006 at 9:41 pm

In a cou­ple of years hope­fully she won’t be around. Sorry but she is no where near tal­ented enough to carry that ego or be insult­ing to that many people.

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too cowardly to leave a name November 9, 2006 at 7:37 pm

She’s young–early 20s I think. Maybe in a few years her matu­rity will match her vocabulary.

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xina November 9, 2006 at 12:01 pm

Cindy, Yes, prob­a­bly that was the thread that she was part of. If there is noth­ing more bor­ing than a lonnnng drawn-out post, it’s a post where some­one is brag­ging about their high IQ and worse post­ing an actual num­ber. ho-hum…whatever. My think­ing is, if you feel the need to brag about it, you are not that smart. It just seems like a really inse­cure thing to do. As for the “lush” prose description…I never really know what that means. I read one of her books and can’t recall all that much about it. I don’t remem­ber dis­lik­ing it, but I guess I wasn’t awed enough to read the next book. With so many books to read, I prob­a­bly won’t be choos­ing her books in the near future.

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CindyS November 9, 2006 at 4:20 am

Xina, was that the con­ver­sa­tion that had the world’s longest post about how she’s not only super smart but gor­geous? How she has faced dis­crim­i­na­tion every where? Appar­ently when­ever she com­ments she brings up her IQ and has stated what it is in other forums. Usu­ally I can’t be both­ered read­ing her posts because they are so long but I appre­ci­ate Keis­hon for keep­ing me in the loop. I have her first book around here some­where but when­ever peo­ple talk about her books they use ‘lush prose’ as a descrip­tor. Huh. I see ‘lush prose’ and real­ize that if all you can say about a romance book is that the prose was lush then it’s not the type of romance I want to read ;) Ah, well. I’m sure she’ll do plenty fine with­out me as a reader.

CIndyS

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xina November 8, 2006 at 1:34 pm

I know what you mean Keis­hon. Usu­ally, authors don’t bother me when they *ahem*…share (what­ever), but this author really, really should shut up, for her own good really. She is try­ing to sell a prod­uct, am I right? There…I’ve said it. Maybe she should reach into her bag of Really Big Words and stump us all, know­ing that we’re all so stooopid. Okay…I’ve said enough!
Yes, please do e-mail me Keis­hon.! It would be great to hear from you.xina

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Avid Reader November 8, 2006 at 12:31 pm

First off: Xina, girl, good to hear from you! Must email you. Mean­while, I must resist temp­ta­tion next time an author shoots off at the mouth.

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xina November 8, 2006 at 11:24 am

I had the “big words” dis­cus­sion with this author on AAR last spring and ended up feel­ing very frus­trated with her opin­ions. I think she draws her con­clu­sions about the “big words” from the Con­cor­dance sta­tis­tics on Ama­zon. Her Flesch index stats com­pare to Leo Tolstoy’s War and Peace. How­ever, if you read about how these stats come about it really has noth­ing to do with the actual writing…or the big words. To me, I feel a lit­tle sorry for this per­son. I have to say per­son­ally, I’m a bit turned off by her atti­tude. She’s an easy mark now to after her com­ments but I’m not sure she deserves much atten­tion. I read one of her books. It was okay, but it sure wasn’t War and Peace. Enough said.

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Avid Reader November 8, 2006 at 9:14 am

Go to your options page and you should see an option for how many posts you want per page.

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Anesthezea November 7, 2006 at 7:38 pm

How did you get more than one post to show up in the top of your blog?

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Karen Scott November 7, 2006 at 6:18 pm

I’m glad you could be arsed read­ing it, I read the first cou­ple of lines to see how long it was, then just decided to give it a miss alto­gether. Glad I did now, same old shit, dif­fer­ent author.

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Jennifer B November 7, 2006 at 5:38 pm

I JUST fin­ished read­ing her for the first time last week­end. The Music Of The Night had been in my TBR stack for months. I enjoyed it and rev­eled in the fact that there were two or three more titles from her I could look for­ward to. Ah well. Not much–outside the actual work–turns me away from an author. This does. That is some seri­ously mis­placed arrogance.

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Bev (BB) November 7, 2006 at 2:07 pm

Heh, for some rea­son I skimmed Jane’s post yes­ter­day and didn’t book­mark it, so I missed all the fun until I saw the stuff here.

Oye.

Who exactly does she think is read­ing her books?

Oh, and Keis­hon, the link to Jane’s arti­cle isn’t coded cor­rectly or some­thing because it took me to a blank page on your blog, which sort of made me blink for a sec­ond or two. :D

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jmc November 7, 2006 at 2:03 pm

I read the first of Ms. Joyce’s books. I don’t recall any par­tic­u­larly large words or con­cepts that were dif­fi­cult to grasp. Does that mean I’m not one of the “stu­pid read­ers”? Prob­a­bly not, because if I was one of the “smart read­ers” for whom LJ writes, I would’ve enjoyed the book more, at least enough to try either of the two fol­low ups. Nope.

As I read the first com­ment posted at Dear Author, all I could think was that this author needs to learn the con­cept of brevity. Com­ments that long fall off track, and often end up embar­rass­ing the commenter.

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Avid Reader November 7, 2006 at 2:01 pm

Her com­ments kind of remind me of a book I read by Susan Eliz­a­beth Phillips. The hero­ine felt that her “bril­liance” or “smart­ness” was some­thing that was a bur­den and was dis­crim­i­nated against for it. So she decides to find a man who was “dumb” enough to have a child with so that her kid could be “nor­mal”. Funny book. Title escapes me now. I meant to link to Mon­ica as she did men­tion other parts of her com­men­tary that was more offen­sive. Should do that right now.

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Jane November 7, 2006 at 1:54 pm

I think the Music of the Night. I think it is her first one and I liked it. It was dif­fer­ent. Dif­fer­ent place set­ting. (Venice). Emo­tional. I don’t remem­ber any really big words, but maybe I skipped over them being a not as intel­li­gent as the author.

I kind of feel bad for Lydia Joyce. It’s like she is so myopic; so wrapped up in her own mis­eries that she can­not see the per­fid­ity of her state­ments. Mon­ica Jack­son pointed out some other parts of her rants that were par­tic­u­larly offensive.

I still don’t know where she gets that smart peo­ple are dis­crim­i­nated against. I won­der if she really knows the meaning.

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Mailyn November 7, 2006 at 1:08 pm

LMFAO! I’ve read one of her books! Started to and it was so idi­otic and just plain stu­pid I kept rolling my eyes and decided I couldn’t take it any­more. Big words?!?! Where?? Who does she think she is? Tol­stoy? Dostoevsky???

LMFAO indeed!!!!

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