The Ego

by Avid Reader on 11.07.2006

Dear Author wrote a topic a few days ago titled: should authors shut up and write? Ms. Joyce responds and hang on to your seats, I’ve high­lighted some of the good parts and read­ers, some of it is rather insult­ing but don’t be. It’s the ego talk­ing.

I’ve never read Lydia Joyce. Quite frankly, her books sound like the kind of novels that I’d enjoy reading since I do prefer ”dark” books. Alas, but I digress.  I admit to not read­ing the com­ments she made in it’s entirety and thus I started skim­ming and then these com­ments jumped out at me like this one: 

Yes, there are some people who are “too stupid” to under­stand my books. But they don’t bring up a par­tic­u­lar plot point they don’t like. They com­plain that none of it makes sense and that there are so many big, con­fus­ing words that the books are IMPOS­SI­BLE to under­stand. These people just aren’t my read­ers. I’m des­tined to piss them off just by having “big words” in a book.

I am half-​way tempted to read one of her books just see all the “big words” she claims to use that seems to con­fuse read­ers. Next time I’m in the used book­store, I’ll get a copy as there’s plenty of her books to be found there, left by stupid people.

Here’s another eye-​rolling moment:

As far as “stupid” read­ers go–those people I ignore pub­licly. Why would I waste my breath talk­ing about people who aren’t even in my audi­ence? Why would I want to, when what I really want is to snatch my book out of their hands and forbid them from ever coming within 100 yards of another one?

Oh and I just love this one:

I don’t expect my read­ers to be bril­liant. They are, how­ever, not stupid. My atti­tude isn’t about arro­gance. It’s about respect. I can either treat people like idiots and write to them like babies, or I can treat them like rea­son­ably intel­li­gent people and risk occa­sion­ally con­fus­ing an intel­li­gent person as a result–particularly an intel­li­gent person who’s used to being treated like a baby most of the time, anyway.

Oh and I also had no idea that Ms. Joyce was a member of Mensa  because she goes on to say:

Yeah, I’m smart, and I got sick to death of hiding it along time ago. I refuse to do it any­more because it shouldn’t be some­thing to be ashamed of or hated for, and I hope that my stand­ing up will help others who have faced dis­crim­i­na­tion, too. (I guess I’m still too much of a hyp­ocrite to post my IQ range, but I can still hope that the day will come when it won’t be any dif­fer­ent than dress or shoe size.) There is noth­ing in the world wrong with being smart any more than there’s some­thing wrong with having blue eyes or brown skin, and it is NOT “show­ing off” to refrain from talk­ing down to people any more than it is show­ing off for a tall person not to stoop.

 And to con­clude this topic made up of most of Ms. Joyce’s own words (well most of them anyway), I don’t have to worry about her com­ment­ing here at my blog because:

If I address some­thing pub­licly, it’s because I respect a person’s opin­ion enough talk about it.

Dear Author’s topic of “should authors just write and shut up” is so aptly named for Ms. Joyce and clearly sets the exam­ple of an author who should do just that.  My next project for myself will be to read a Lydia Joyce book. I’m sure some­one can rec­om­mend a book for me?

Edited to add: Monica’s com­ments here: Hypocrisy in Action.

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CindyS 11.11.2006 at 2:23 am

Maili - I was just saying how I remem­ber her from the reader boards and that she did seem to have an intel­li­gence about her. She was able to debate very well and I remem­ber inter­act­ing with her on the boards.

All the same, now she seems like a com­pletely dif­fer­ent person. It’s like once she became pub­lished she no longer needed to debate because she was right. If it is a youth thing then I do hope she will grow out of it. If not, some­one much harsher and bigger than us will knock her off her self-​impossed pedestal.

Thing is most people don’t remem­ber her as a reader and her name is dif­fer­ent as an author so all they know are the words she is using now and clearly she is not making friends OR sales.

CindyS

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Avid Reader 11.10.2006 at 5:57 pm

I sup­pose the ques­tion is whether you’d be will­ing to do that.

No, I’m not.

I think as a con­sumer I was more put off by her words. First off, I’m not her friend, so, no, I don’t want to take the time to under­stand all her per­sonal bag­gage. Don’t have time for that. I’m not even a fan but a poten­tial buyer. I just think that as Bev men­tioned, she raised some eye­brows by stat­ing the things that she did that I as a reader and con­sumer would find off-​putting. There are thou­sands of other books out there to read and other authors out there want­ing to sell me their books with­out being insult­ing.
Appre­ci­ate your defend­ing her but I’m sure this whole thing won’t hurt her book sales, so no worries.

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Bev (BB) 11.10.2006 at 1:30 pm

I don’t know, Maili. She might’ve been will­ing to “debate” in the past but the last couple of posts that have shown up are decid­edly not simple debat­ing. They are, um, almost inde­scribeable. Really.

Hey, I’ve seen a lot of things said online that border on insult­ing but could be called either way and I usu­ally tend to give the ben­e­fit of a doubt or simply ignore them if pos­si­ble. Can you hon­estly say that some of the above quoted com­ments are simply accept­able “debat­ing”? Or even good sense for an author to spout to poten­tial read­ers? ‘Cause they sure raised my eyebrows.

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xina 11.10.2006 at 11:28 am

Well, in Real Life she may have some redeem­ing qual­i­ties, whereas online we only see her words. We miss man­ner­isms and char­ac­ter­is­tics that are part of her person. I just think if you are sell­ing a prod­uct to the public, it’s best for your sales to not insult that public. She may be better off think­ing twice before she presses “enter”. Just a thought.

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Sybil 11.10.2006 at 9:54 am

She has a decid­edly dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive and out­look, and you have to look through her eyes to under­stand what she’s trying to say.

Oh I can see it. I under­stand ego and think­ing you are better than the rest of the world *G*. But when you are trying to make your living off that same world, you prolly don’t want them to know you think their asses are stupid.

And can you really call it debate when there is no room for move­ment or seeing that the other person idea’s might be right… or just as right as your own? Some­times there is more than one answer to a ques­tion.

But hey what­ever is clever…

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Maili 11.10.2006 at 9:34 am

Aw, Lydia J. is okay, really. I have seen her around for years, mostly from when she was a reader and active on a mail­ing list for read­ers (this was yonks ago). She fre­quently got into lively debates with var­i­ous read­ers and authors.

It seems to me that some­times when she is frus­trated or upset she tends to be sar­cas­tic, which doesn’t always come across on a text-​based plat­form well, e.g. “big words”. She some­times can be like a dog with a bone, espe­cially with an issue she cares pas­sion­ately for. Some­times you might have to bash her head with a bone to get your mes­sage across. :D Either way she usu­ally gives as good as she gets, which is a plus in my books.

She has a decid­edly dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive and out­look, and you have to look through her eyes to under­stand what she’s trying to say. I sup­pose the ques­tion is whether you’d be will­ing to do that. She’s not bad, really. I believe during those times on the mail­ing list (I can’t remem­ber what it’s called now — it’s the one AAR set up for read­ers) I irri­tated her as much as she irri­tated me, but I do have a soft spot for her because when­ever she issued her state­ments, how­ever pro­vok­ing these might be, she was usu­ally happy to have her state­ments ques­tioned. She loves (well, she did at the time) debates and she will change her stance or back down if you man­aged to put your points across well. In my books that is a plus. Hence my will­ing­ness to defend her here.

IMO, she’s a non-​conformist who pretty much marches to her own drum, which is a rarity, I think, in the online romance com­mu­nity where peer pres­sure tends to dom­i­nate our world. Our egos might haven’t get on well (when­ever we cor­rect each other’s state­ments or fac­toids (espe­cially about his­tory), we hate it enough to argue ‘til we can either admit defeat by not respond­ing any more or agree­ing she/I was right - it’s an ego thing!), but gen­er­ally I like her (I admit there have been times when I called her every name under the sun). She can be dif­fi­cult and, you know, “Aargh! *head­desk* Aaaargh!” She can be a real geek with weird social skills, but she’s a hedge­hog. Hence my soft spot for her.

FWIW, anyway. :)

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Sybil 11.09.2006 at 9:41 pm

In a couple of years hope­fully she won’t be around. Sorry but she is no where near tal­ented enough to carry that ego or be insult­ing to that many people.

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too cowardly to leave a name 11.09.2006 at 7:37 pm

She’s young — early 20s I think. Maybe in a few years her matu­rity will match her vocabulary.

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xina 11.09.2006 at 12:01 pm

Cindy, Yes, prob­a­bly that was the thread that she was part of. If there is noth­ing more boring than a lonnnng drawn-​out post, it’s a post where some­one is brag­ging about their high IQ and worse post­ing an actual number. ho-hum…whatever. My think­ing is, if you feel the need to brag about it, you are not that smart. It just seems like a really inse­cure thing to do. As for the “lush” prose description…I never really know what that means. I read one of her books and can’t recall all that much about it. I don’t remem­ber dis­lik­ing it, but I guess I wasn’t awed enough to read the next book. With so many books to read, I prob­a­bly won’t be choos­ing her books in the near future.

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CindyS 11.09.2006 at 4:20 am

Xina, was that the con­ver­sa­tion that had the world’s longest post about how she’s not only super smart but gor­geous? How she has faced dis­crim­i­na­tion every where? Appar­ently when­ever she com­ments she brings up her IQ and has stated what it is in other forums. Usu­ally I can’t be both­ered read­ing her posts because they are so long but I appre­ci­ate Keis­hon for keep­ing me in the loop. I have her first book around here some­where but when­ever people talk about her books they use ‘lush prose’ as a descrip­tor. Huh. I see ‘lush prose’ and real­ize that if all you can say about a romance book is that the prose was lush then it’s not the type of romance I want to read ;) Ah, well. I’m sure she’ll do plenty fine with­out me as a reader.

CIndyS

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xina 11.08.2006 at 1:34 pm

I know what you mean Keis­hon. Usu­ally, authors don’t bother me when they *ahem*…share (what­ever), but this author really, really should shut up, for her own good really. She is trying to sell a prod­uct, am I right? There…I’ve said it. Maybe she should reach into her bag of Really Big Words and stump us all, know­ing that we’re all so stooopid. Okay…I’ve said enough!
Yes, please do e-mail me Keis­hon.! It would be great to hear from you.xina

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Avid Reader 11.08.2006 at 12:31 pm

First off: Xina, girl, good to hear from you! Must email you. Mean­while, I must resist temp­ta­tion next time an author shoots off at the mouth.

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xina 11.08.2006 at 11:24 am

I had the “big words” dis­cus­sion with this author on AAR last spring and ended up feel­ing very frus­trated with her opin­ions. I think she draws her con­clu­sions about the “big words” from the Con­cor­dance sta­tis­tics on Amazon. Her Flesch index stats com­pare to Leo Tolstoy’s War and Peace. How­ever, if you read about how these stats come about it really has noth­ing to do with the actual writing…or the big words. To me, I feel a little sorry for this person. I have to say per­son­ally, I’m a bit turned off by her atti­tude. She’s an easy mark now to after her com­ments but I’m not sure she deserves much atten­tion. I read one of her books. It was okay, but it sure wasn’t War and Peace. Enough said.

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Avid Reader 11.08.2006 at 9:14 am

Go to your options page and you should see an option for how many posts you want per page.

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Anesthezea 11.07.2006 at 7:38 pm

How did you get more than one post to show up in the top of your blog?

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Karen Scott 11.07.2006 at 6:18 pm

I’m glad you could be arsed read­ing it, I read the first couple of lines to see how long it was, then just decided to give it a miss alto­gether. Glad I did now, same old shit, dif­fer­ent author.

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Jennifer B 11.07.2006 at 5:38 pm

I JUST fin­ished read­ing her for the first time last week­end. The Music Of The Night had been in my TBR stack for months. I enjoyed it and rev­eled in the fact that there were two or three more titles from her I could look for­ward to. Ah well. Not much — outside the actual work — turns me away from an author. This does. That is some seri­ously mis­placed arrogance.

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Bev (BB) 11.07.2006 at 2:07 pm

Heh, for some reason I skimmed Jane’s post yes­ter­day and didn’t book­mark it, so I missed all the fun until I saw the stuff here.

Oye.

Who exactly does she think is read­ing her books?

Oh, and Keis­hon, the link to Jane’s arti­cle isn’t coded cor­rectly or some­thing because it took me to a blank page on your blog, which sort of made me blink for a second or two. :D

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jmc 11.07.2006 at 2:03 pm

I read the first of Ms. Joyce’s books. I don’t recall any par­tic­u­larly large words or con­cepts that were dif­fi­cult to grasp. Does that mean I’m not one of the “stupid read­ers”? Prob­a­bly not, because if I was one of the “smart read­ers” for whom LJ writes, I would’ve enjoyed the book more, at least enough to try either of the two follow ups. Nope.

As I read the first com­ment posted at Dear Author, all I could think was that this author needs to learn the con­cept of brevity. Com­ments that long fall off track, and often end up embar­rass­ing the commenter.

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Avid Reader 11.07.2006 at 2:01 pm

Her com­ments kind of remind me of a book I read by Susan Eliz­a­beth Phillips. The hero­ine felt that her “bril­liance” or “smart­ness” was some­thing that was a burden and was dis­crim­i­nated against for it. So she decides to find a man who was “dumb” enough to have a child with so that her kid could be “normal”. Funny book. Title escapes me now. I meant to link to Monica as she did men­tion other parts of her com­men­tary that was more offen­sive. Should do that right now.

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Jane 11.07.2006 at 1:54 pm

I think the Music of the Night. I think it is her first one and I liked it. It was dif­fer­ent. Dif­fer­ent place set­ting. (Venice). Emo­tional. I don’t remem­ber any really big words, but maybe I skipped over them being a not as intel­li­gent as the author.

I kind of feel bad for Lydia Joyce. It’s like she is so myopic; so wrapped up in her own mis­eries that she cannot see the per­fid­ity of her state­ments. Monica Jack­son pointed out some other parts of her rants that were par­tic­u­larly offen­sive.

I still don’t know where she gets that smart people are dis­crim­i­nated against. I wonder if she really knows the meaning.

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Mailyn 11.07.2006 at 1:08 pm

LMFAO! I’ve read one of her books! Started to and it was so idi­otic and just plain stupid I kept rolling my eyes and decided I couldn’t take it any­more. Big words?!?! Where?? Who does she think she is? Tol­stoy? Dos­to­evsky???

LMFAO indeed!!!!

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